by Rabbi David Woznica
If you have yet to make New Years’ resolutions, I encourage you to do so. Even if you think you may break them, it’s still a good idea. Resolutions give you goals to which you can aspire.
It is important to have an image of what we want to become. Such an image can be a source of inspiration. Do you see yourself as a person more dedicated to your family? Do you want to strengthen your financial situation so that your living standards improve? Do you wish to be more charitable or to read more? Are there skills you aspire to learn or interests you want to pursue? Do you want better control of your temper or to change the way you look?
Research suggests the overwhelming majority of resolutions are not kept. That’s probably no surprise. My suggestion is to have resolutions that are specific, reachable, and not lofty. Small victories in life are both satisfying and can inspire more action.
Over 40 years ago, I received life changing advice on how to grow as a Jew; A little bit is better than nothing. You may, or may not, be ready to keep entirely kosher or to observe Shabbat for 25 hours. You may appreciate the Jewish teachings about business ethics or speech but don’t feel ready to adopt all of them. Rather than dismissing the ideal with I don’t see myself doing everything, ask, what am I prepared to try? What steps might I take? This perspective is liberating and you may find over time, you take on more.
As we enter 2020, consider making a few resolutions. There’s little to lose and if you are successful with small advances, you may be inspired to move ahead farther than you might imagine.
I wish you a Shabbat Shalom.
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